The Solar Plexus Center is both an awareness center and a motor center. The Solar Plexus is our emotional center, and it operates a biochemical, oscillating wave. This wave has highs and lows, which translate to a range of emotions from hope to pain, happiness to sadness, and a spectrum of moods. To have the Solar Plexus defined means that this wave is always passing through you. This wave, this emotional energy, is enormously powerful, and to have the Solar Plexus defined means that automatically that person has Emotional Authority. Because when that emotional energy is present, it colors everything. It is the lens that Emotionals see life through.
A person who is Emotional is always dealing with this emotional wave. That energy with its highs and lows and moods is always moving through them. Children who are emotional get a whole lot of conditioning, some of it traumatic, because of this emotional wave. Society tells us not to be emotional. Do not show emotion. Don’t cry. Don’t complain. Don’t get your hopes up. Don’t get upset. And society also tells us that we should be happy all the time, and if we are not happy, something is wrong and we need to fix it. Children who are emotional are often punished for being emotional, and they learn to suppress it. Many people who are emotional learn to shut down when they are upset. They become silent and stoic and they expend a tremendous amount of energy trying to push down this intense emotional wave that will grow louder and louder inside of them the more that they try to make it go away. What winds up happening for most Emotionals is that they live their lives battling the lows of this emotional wave. The more they try to suppress, rationalize or get rid of this energy, the bigger it gets.
The thing to understand is that about half of the population has the Solar Plexus Center defined. The other half of the population has the Solar Plexus Center open, and what that means is that they are taking in and amplifying this emotional energy that people with defined Solar Plexus are putting out. What that means is that not only are people with Emotional Authority living with this emotional wave, people who have open Solar Plexus are living with it too- at an amplified level.
Children with open Solar Plexus receive a whole lot of conditioning, some of it traumatic, because of this amplified emotional energy. As children, people with open Solar Plexus will act out the emotional energy of the family. Parents may tell these children that they are dramatic or emotional, but really they are simply reflecting back a heightened version of their own emotional energy. When a person who is open gets around a person who is defined, and that defined person has learned to suppress their emotions and shut down when they are upset, the open person is still feeling that emotional energy that is beneath the surface- at an amplified level. On the surface, however, the open person is looking at the emotionally defined person who is stoic, silent and cold. This is another way that people who are open emotionally come to believe that they are the one who is moody, emotional or temperamental. They are subjected to wild mood swings that they absorb, and it can be difficult for them to understand that that energy is not their own. If a child with open Solar Plexus has a parent who is emotionally defined, they can feel like they are personally responsible for their parents moods. People who have open Solar Plexus will feel very differently when they are by themselves as opposed to when they are around people who are emotional. Because of these experiences, most people who are open emotionally tend to avoid emotional energy and confrontation. It’s more comfortable for people with open Solar Plexus to avoid this energy because it feels loud, intense and out of control.
So, what we ALL have to understand- the 50% of us who have defined Solar Plexus and the 50% of us who are open- is that this emotional wave that is passing through us- we are not the wave. We’re just surfers. What this comes down to is parenting. Those of us who are parents of children who are Emotional can help them to accept this energy, these moods, instead of giving them the message that there is something wrong with them that needs to be fixed. Those of us who are parenting children who are open emotionally can help them to identify how they are feeling around others. Helping them to identify these different feelings can help them to identify what they are absorbing, and help them to create boundaries. A parent who is emotional who has a child who is open can help their child by explaining to them when they are having a mood, or feeling sad or upset. They can explain to the child that it’s them, not the child, and that the child should go and play or have fun. They can explain that they are having a bad day, and that the child should not have a bad day because of that. A parent who is open who has a child that is Emotional can help both their emotional child and themselves by talking with them about their feelings, identifying what the child is feeling and encouraging them to take time to let this energy pass through them. The open parent has to understand that their child’s moods and emotions are not the fault of the parent, nor are they a personal attack on the parent.
For those of us who don’t have children, we can give this to ourselves and to the people we are in relationship with. Emotionals can take time for themselves when they are feeling the lows of their wave. They can inform the people around them. They can use this time to practice self-care. Those who are open can recognize this amplified energy that is coming from others and use it understand and empathize with the people around them. It’s so important that Emotionals don’t live at the mercy of their emotional wave, and that they don’t make the people in their lives live at the mercy of it too. All of us, both defined and open, have to learn to accept this wave. We have to make peace with it. We have to honor it. We have to make room for it. We have to allow it to pass through us. We have to communicate about it.