When we talk about definition, we’re talking about connection. The way that your centers connect to one another through defined channels and gates means energy flows there. Energy from one center is working its way through channels to get to another center, and then through another channel to another center, all trying to get to the Throat Center so that it can be communicated, expressed and manifested. When you do not have channels or gates defined between centers, that energy can feel a little cut off. When you get around people who do have those channels or gates defined, they are bringing you that missing energy. The energy that they provide acts like a bridge between your centers, and so those people feel like they provide something that is missing within you. Their energy can feel familiar, familial & comforting, or fresh, invigorating & exciting. This can feel like a soul mate, like family, or a kindred spirit. It can make you feel like you are more yourself to be around them. This is because they bring you the energy you need to get that sense of flow between your centers.
For people who have Simple Split Definition, there is often just a couple of channels and gates that are not defined within them that they need to experience this total flow, so they can feel like there is one person who completes them. This energy is obviously very monogamous. Triple Split Definition means that there are three separate areas of definition, disconnected from each other, within the chart. No single bridging channel, gate or person brings the same sense of wholeness. There are multiple ways that their centers can be brought together, and this means they need variety. As with Simple Split definitions, being around a person who provides the energy that is missing provides a sense of wholeness and flow, but to be a Triple Split means that there are multiple ways this can occur, multiple people who can bring you a sense of wholeness and flow. Multiple best friends. Multiple loves of your life. It also means that because there are multiple possibilities, the stakes are not as high for these connections as they are for Simple Splits. For Simple Splits, there is a weight to those connections because they are few. For Triple Splits, there are many possibilities and ways they can be bridged, so those connections are less consequential. Triple Splits feel a strong connection to those who bring them bridging energy, but they don’t have the expectations for them that Simple Splits do.
The thing to understand about this unique experience of being a Triple Split is that it can be a source of great inner conflict. To understand this Triple Split conflict, you have to understand that the majority of the population are Simple Split Definition. Our whole relationship structure was built by and for Simple Splits, and we all receive constant programming and conditioning about how we should love others, and how that should be structured. Monogamy feels like our only option, and let’s not underestimate the power of the programming we receive from Hollywood and fiction in terms of what we are told “finding your one true love” can bring- happily ever after. Triple Splits are sold this constantly, and this adds to the tremendous pressure that they feel in their relationships to be hopelessly devoted to one person. They also have the experience of feeling like they are connected and in love with one person, only to meet another person with whom they feel deeply connected to in a totally different way. The truth is that for Triple Splits, there’s not just one, one & only, soul mate.
Triple Splits in monogamous relationships (especially with Simple Splits) can feel like they are being given an ultimatum- make one choice for life- total devotion- all or nothing. This is part of the inner conflict of the Triple Split. On one hand they value and feel deeply for the person that brings them that bridging energy. On the other hand they live with this sense of and awareness that there are other options for them, multiple ways and people that can provide them with bridging energy. They don’t want to lose the person that bridges them, but they also know that they need variety. This is why Triple Splits can become jealous partners, or can even seem narcissistic. It’s not that they don’t love the person they are with and want them to move on to someone else, they just always have this restless sense of needing varying energy. They are always dealing with this inner conflict of loving deeply those who bridge them, yet feeling confined and knowing that they need more than one type of energy in their life.
This experience of being bridged by multiple people can mean that the people that Triple Splits are attracted to can be very different from one another. This extends to their friendships and social circles as well as their romantic partners. Triple Splits can be attracted to people with different lifestyles, interests, sexual orientations and genders. This might look like having romantic partners who are very different from each other, to having different groups of friends who seem to have nothing in common. It may also look like having romantic partners who are at odds with or not accepted by their friends. Triple Splits are incredibly curious about people- what they do and how they live, what their interests are and what makes them tick. Triple Splits love to learn and love to dip their toe into different energetic pools. Because Triple Splits can have relationships and friendships with people who are very different, they can feel an added pressure- a pressure to remain faithful to one group of people, one way of life or one set of interests. Triple Splits don’t want to be held to one identity or boxed in, and because of this they may feel the need to compartmentalize- keeping their different groups of friends, family and lovers separate from one another.
This doesn’t mean that Triple Splits are not capable of monogamy or of being in a successful monogamous relationship. It just means that Triple Splits need to make room in their lives and their relationships for movement. Triple Splits need to sample energy, and they get that stimulation through being out in the public aura. Taking classes or workshops, finding group events or experiences where they get to be around a lot of different energy are great ways for Triple Splits to get the variety they crave. Triple Splits will tend to find work that also allows them to do this, by working in public places like hospitals, healing centers or doctors offices, schools, salons or retail shops. They may also seek this stimulation by working in bars, nightclubs or strip clubs because it allows them to experience a lot of different energies in a way that is constantly changing. This is all correct for Triple Splits. Sampling energy is what fuels them.
As with astrology, there is not good or bad but high and low expression of energy. Triple Split energy is comparable to the energy of astrological sign Gemini. Gemini energy is very airy- it moves quickly and it is incredibly curious. It wants to explore, it wants to chat, banter and flirt or analyze and dissect. Gemini energy can be gregarious and charming, and it can also be fickle and, at times, two-faced or sneaky. There is a duality present in Geminis that resonates with Triple Split energy. Human Design is about knowing yourself, and owning your own energy. Triple Splits who have awareness of their need for variety can bring it out of the shadows and communicate it to the people that they love, and help to shift the public consciousness by showing the world that we don’t all love the same way.