Let’s talk about our friendly friends, the 4/6/Opportunist Role Models. The 4/6 is a profile of personal destiny, and they are focused on their own personal process, but 4/6s play a big role in the lives of the people that they are personally connected to.
The conscious part of the 4/6 is the 4/Opportunist. The 4th line is always developing and cultivating their social network. 4th lines have a natural magnetism and social grace/charm, which they use to form the networks that provide them with opportunities in their lives- from social to romantic, business to spiritual. Every opportunity that comes to a 4th line will come through their network, so it is crucial that 4th lines have the right network of people surrounding them. 4th lines are like pilgrims marching on the Camino de Santiago, and their network is like the Albergues (hostels) along the way- providing them with shelter, food, maps and credentials as they make their way to Sanitago de Compostela. The network of a 4th line is the framework and lens that they see the world through. It provides them with a sense of structure and security, and 4th lines who find themselves without a network will feel lost and groundless. I call 4th lines, and 4/6s in particular, the line/profile of the buddy. Friendships and relationships are everything for 4th lines, and to have a great relationship they need a solid foundation of friendship. There is such a platonic quality to the 4/6s energy that potential partners don’t always realize that 4/6s are romantically interested. 4/6s are not looking for casual affairs or one night stands, nor are they looking for seduction, mystery or game playing. 4th lines need to know where they stand and that they can trust who they are with. They are not here to impact strangers, and it takes an introduction through someone in their network for a stranger to reach them. The phrase “circle of trust” accurately describes the network of the 4th line. Another 4th line phrase is “6 degrees of separation” or more famously- 6 degrees of 4th line Kevin Bacon.
The unconscious part of the 4/6 profile is the 6/Role Model. All 6th lines have three phases in their lives. The first phase is through the age of 30, where they live their lives as a Martyr, learning by experiencing, and going through a trial and error process by which they learn (often the hard way) what and who is correct for them. This can be a messy process, which is uncomfortable for the 6th line because it is in their nature to be removed from the dramas of life, taking the high road or staying aloof and sitting above it all in observation mode. While uncomfortable, this phase of their lives is crucial for discovering what their path is and who their tribe is, and for the 4/6 this is the phase where they enter into various romantic relationships, friendships and business ventures that may not be correct for them. This process makes them feel uncomfortable and exposed, but is necessary in order to acquire the experiential wisdom needed for them to ultimately step into their role model role. The second phase is from ages 30-50, where they will be “on the roof.” They climb up out of the daily dramas of life and onto the roof to get a birds eye view of the people below them, and resign to a quiet life where they develop their own personal relationships- building their own families and careers. The final phase comes at the age of 50, when they step down off the roof and can take what they experienced through the trial and error of their first 30 years, and what they observed through their period of watching from the roof, and step into their role model phase with wisdom and confidence. 6th lines all have a natural authority to them that makes others look to them for advice or direction, which 6th lines are always providing. Consciously 4/6s are always working on and through their trusted network, and on the unconscious level, they are navigating these three phases of life.
The ultimate role of the 4/6 is to be a living example and role model to their network. Often the network that remains throughout the life of a 4/6 is a structure and framework that they work within, where the people within it shift but the framework remains intact. This can be a career path, religious or spiritual community, or a physical location such as a town, city or neighborhood. As the people within the framework of their network shift, there can be friction, struggle and heartbreaks. As the 4/6 goes through the first phase of life where they are trying different relationships and networks on for size, they will find themselves in situations that are not correct for them and will therefore find the opportunities that come through those people are incorrect. There is also something of the voyeur and student of the 4/6, and they are always looking for mentors and role models to align themselves with. As they take on and learn from these people, they grow and evolve toward that final phase of becoming a role model. These mentors and comrades provide them with opportunities and introduce them to more people who will become part of their ever evolving network. As these shifts and evolutions occur, people will be left behind- people who will always want to hold the 4/6 to some earlier version of themselves. For the people who are mentors to the 4/6, they can have difficulty seeing the 4/6 as an equal or as a role model. Typically when a 4/6 is no longer receiving valuable opportunities from a person, they will find that their network has shifted to no longer include that person. 4/6s are naturally suited for politics because of this- the structure of the political system provides the framework for their networking and gives them opportunities to find their footing and evolve into the role models they are destined to become. Many politicians are/were 4/6s, including FDR, RFK, Dick Cheney, Spiro Agnew, George Washington, Calvin Coolidge, Woodrow Wilson, Warren G Harding, and democratic Presidential candidates Pete Buttigeg, Elizabeth Warren and Joe Biden.
A famous example of a 4/6 is James Hetfield, front man for the band Metallica. In his first phase of life he found the ultimate network- a band. It was through the network of his band that Hetfield met his wife- who worked as a costume designer for Metallica. As success and fame came to the band, Hetfield became known as the hard partying metal singer, living a rock n’ roll lifestyle. As he moved through his “on the roof” phase, he became more focused on building his own family, and found himself less and less comfortable with his starring role as a rock star. During this phase Hetfield entered rehab and became focused on his sobriety and his family. As his personal network began to shift away from the lifestyle associated with the band, he began to question whether the band was the correct network for him and found himself in conflict with the members of his band who wanted to hold him to that earlier version of himself. As he moved toward the role model phase of his life, he was able to find a balance and incorporate what he had experienced and observed into the framework of his network (the band). He’s now a mentor and role model to other musicians, with 15+ years of sobriety under his belt, a happy marriage and family life, and a band that has remained successful for decades.
Another example is 4/6 Brad Pitt, whose network of Hollywood filmmakers has been the center of his world. Throughout his career it has been filmmaking that has brought him friendships, business ventures and romantic relationships. In 2001 Pitt started a production company (Plan B) with then wife Jennifer Aniston. Pitt’s career evolved from Hollywood hunk to respected actor to movie star to taking on more and more projects as a producer, through the production company that he started with his ex-wife, but shifted over time to an entirely different group of people running the company. While his relationships and friendships have shifted and changed, the production company and filmmaking remain the core network of his life.
Another example is 4/6 Martha Stewart, whose career was launched through her marriage to her ex-husband Andrew Stewart, who was the president of a publishing company. She & her husband bought her famous Turkey Hill home, which Stewart renovated and used to entertain and host many parties for her husband’s colleagues. In the late 70’s her husband hired her to cater an event where Stewart met the head of Crown Publishing Group, who was impressed by her cooking and party hosting skills and asked Stewart to develop a cookbook. Stewart has become the role model for cooking, homemaking and entertaining, and although her marriage ended and she launched her own publishing empire, that framework remains.
Our 4/6 friends play a crucial role in society. 4/6s serve as human connectors, tying us all together and helping us to find our place and function within our tribes and communities.